I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One

I Wasn t Ready to Say Goodbye Surviving Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One Now there is a hand to hold Each year about eight million Americans suffer the death of a close family member The list of high visibility disasters human suffering and sudden loss in long and will co

  • Title: I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One
  • Author: Brook Noel Pamela D. Blair
  • ISBN: 9781891400278
  • Page: 300
  • Format: Paperback
  • I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One

    Now there is a hand to hold Each year about eight million Americans suffer the death of a close family member The list of high visibility disasters, human suffering and sudden loss in long and will continue to grow From TWA Flight 800 to Egypt Air 990, from Oklahoma City to Columbine, daily we face incomprehensible loss Outside the publicized tragedies there are manyNow there is a hand to hold Each year about eight million Americans suffer the death of a close family member The list of high visibility disasters, human suffering and sudden loss in long and will continue to grow From TWA Flight 800 to Egypt Air 990, from Oklahoma City to Columbine, daily we face incomprehensible loss Outside the publicized tragedies there are many families and individuals that are suffering behind closed doors in our neighborhoods, in our own homes, in hospital waiting rooms Now for those who face the challenges of sudden death, there is a hand to hold written by two women who have experience sudden loss In a book that will touch, comfort, uplift and console, authors Brook Noel and Pamela D Blair, Ph.D explore sudden death and its role in the cycle of life Tapping the personal histories of both authors and numerous interviews, I Wasn t Ready to Say Goodbye shows grieving readers how to endure, survive and grow from the pain and turmoil surrounding human loss For survivors this valuable book provides a rock steady anchor from which to weather the storm of pain and begin to rebuild their lives.

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    1. JT

      My dad died the day before Valentine's Day. He was 52 and his heart just stopped.Shock is an amazing thing - it let's you get through horrible times without fully feeling the torrent of emotions raging through you. But then shock wears off, and in my case, I had to go back to a city where I don't have family to deal with my grief by myself.I picked up this book and a couple others hoping to find out that there was an end to the pain I was feeling. There isn't one. But there is a new normal that [...]

    2. Tom Harrington

      Having lost my wife - suddenly, unexpectedly - last month, I found a lot of good helpful information in this book, including helpful exercises to make dealing with this incredibly weird grieving process a bit easier, and a lot more understandable. However, the book loses one star because the authors certainly push their obvious Christianity down the readers' throats. I found that to be unhelpful to say the least. I realize some people need that sort of thing, but I don't believe it is an integra [...]

    3. Doug DePew

      I've struggled for months with what appeared to be a mid-life crisis. In researching how to get through it, I tracked the source down to delayed grief. I lost my brother in 1995 and my dad in 2000 in very similar auto accidents. I don't think I ever grieved them properly and it surfaced in my forties. This book is one of the ones I found to address my particular situation.This is a well written guidebook to carry anyone through the experience of losing a close loved one suddenly. It contains sec [...]

    4. Vikki

      pretty good in terms of practical advice for both the bereaved and those who want to be supportive. specific sections for getting through the early days, the first year, holiday & such, and different types of losses (i.e parent, child, suicide, multiple losses)me chapters could be more detailed--the one on helping children grieve, for instance, is kind of sparse, though it did give me some good information i hadn't known. overall i think it's a really good resource book, targeted to people w [...]

    5. Rosemary

      This book helped me during a period of grief.I had lost my sister, niece, and nephew within a 2 1/2 month period and I was grieving. It went through each step of thegriving process and helped relieve some ofthe loss I felt because I related to whatI was going thru at that point. It gave truestories of people who had lost their loveones in their life.

    6. Michelle Jarvie

      One of the best grief books because it (1) tackles the myths/stereotypes of the grief process and (2) presents different segments for every kind of relationship (friend, spouse, child, parent, etc.). Extremely well-written and thoughtful.

    7. Kathryn

      I'd highly recommend this book for people experiencing sudden deaths. It was filled with golden advice or antidotes on every page but there were certain parts that I will remember forever.

    8. Vince

      For those who have suddenly lost someone in their life, this is a very helpful book. It provides ways to recovery, what you will be going through at different stages and helpful tips to get through the rough times. If offers a wide perspective on different relationships as well as in-depth information on grief and how men and women grieve differently.

    9. Beth

      My mom recommended this book to me. Though the book expressly deals with sudden loss, I think anyone who is grieving could benefit from paging through this.In reading it, I have developed a lot more compassion for those going through grief -- and that includes myself. Yes, there was some practical advice, but for me at this time, the biggest take away was to be gentle with myself, even a year later. Even a lifetime later, really.A quote that made it into my journal:"We are a culture who seeks an [...]

    10. Jo

      This book is specific to helping people deal with the sudden death of a loved one, by women who have both experienced it as well as thoroughly researched the topic. The problems difficulties and even the grieving process differ for those dealing with the unexpected loss of a loved one from those grieving a loss that can be anticipated. The explanations the authors offer regarding various emotions and physical symptoms of grief are extremely helpful to people who have never gone through a large p [...]

    11. Ken

      I enjoyed this book a lot. I am divorced and the discussions about grieving helped me in some ways. In my support group, I am in contact with a lot of people who have lost loved ones, some spouses, others family members. That is a great thing about this book, it encompasses the nuances of all kinds of different losses. Widows and Widowers, Parents, siblings, close friends, children. Each has a different dynamic to it. One I found very interesting was the sibling. Many times sibs are asked how th [...]

    12. Kelly

      When my father passed away from cancer, I was beside myself with grief. There are not alot of books out there to help get you through. I know, I looked. This is about as close as it gets. The chapters are not specifically targeting one person: Mom, Dad, Spouse, child, Sibling - they help you get through the first few weeks, days, hours, minutes if you need to. It's about finding the impass to just cope. You read stories, you get exercises & grief sessions, it's chalk full of information, som [...]

    13. Jennifer

      I have been reading this book off and on in 2015. I wish I had read it right after my mom died, as a lot of it would have helped me in my grief journey. However, even three years on from her death, a lot of it is extremely helpful and comforting. It is good to know that we all grieve at our own pace, and I am not abnormal for where I am in my journey. I've highlighted many good things, things I need to remember, and will be doing the exercises as well as taking advantage of the resources in here [...]

    14. Susan

      While I didn't find everything in this book helpful (thus the 4-star rating), I do recommend it to anyone who has experienced the sudden death of a loved one. There are other books that may be better at helping with later stages of grief, but for me, in the first few weeks, this was exactly what I needed. My recommendation is to get this book and read the second chapter (which is what the authors recommend) as soon as you are able to sit down and read. It helped me to understand what I was going [...]

    15. Carissa

      Overall, this book was really helpful. It covered a variety of topics and did a very good job and describing exactly how I was feeling after unexpectedly losing my dad almost three weeks ago. I liked the sections on specific ways to turn your grief into something creative (collage, photos, poetry, etc.). I wish the chapter on losing a parent was longer. It seemed to be the shortest chapter out of all of them. Overall, I would recommend this book to family and friends. My mom would probably benef [...]

    16. Tammy Brunson

      This was an incredible book! It helped me through some of the hardest, darkest and scariest moments of losing a loved one. The authors could truly relate to loss and gave really good thoughts and ideas on learning and choosing methods of coping with grief. I highly recommend this book to anyone who has lost someone unexpectedly. This book covers every facet of the death/grief process and helps to deal with anniversaries, birthdays, holidays, children, family and even a few of the local and legal [...]

    17. Elizabeth Severance

      It is hard to review this book because it such a personal matter if it will be helpful to anyone else. There were parts that were helpful, which made me feel normal. I had to stop reading it for awhile because it would talk about things I wasn't feeling and then I felt like I was doing something wrong. If you need to start somewhere after the sudden loss of a loved one- this is a good place to start.

    18. Karen

      This book has helped me through the most devastating time in my life with the loss of my son.I was so lost and in a fog for awhile till I started reading this book which has helped me through day by day along this new path of mineI have bought it for a number of friends who have gone through similar loss and they also have told me how much they appreciated having this book given to them.Thanks to the authors for providing sound and great insight into dealing with loss and grief.

    19. Jessica

      Got this book from the library shortly after my boyfriend/sons father was murdered, helped me feel OK with my feelings. I remember wishing I'd gotten it sooner ( read it about 1 1/2 after) Good suggestions on how to deal. Cried throughout the book, not sure if it was a sad book or if it was just me being a little post pardum. I would recommend to anyone whos experienced a sudden loss.

    20. Rebecca Huston

      One of the better books out there in how to cope with the sudden death of a loved one. This one certainly helped me after my mother died. Not for everyone, and it won't work in the same ways with everyone, but it is worth reading. For the complete review, please go here:epinions/content_12146

    21. Ami Jo

      While it doesn't "flow" quite as well as "How to go on living when someone you love dies", there are helpful tidbits and hints. I certainly have take aways - there is no "getting over", sudden-death loss grief may take longer because you had no time to prepare yourself before the death, 3 years as the "norm" to feel like living again. Worth a read.

    22. Nancy Breinholt

      3.5 stars. I bought this after the unexpected death of my beloved father and it really helped. Mostly helpful was a phd telling me that what I was feeling was normal and that there are very specific issues dealing with a sudden death. Instead of one chapter in a book, the entire book deals with the devastating sudden loss of a loved one. I am going to pass this around to my family.

    23. Lisa Scott

      Really validating and helpful, especially the section on dealing with the first few days/weeks after a sudden loss. It would have been helpful to have had it right away, and I plan to buy a print copy (I read it on kindle) to have on hand in case a friend needs it some day. It's written more to skip around as needed rather than to read straight through.

    24. Mimi

      I bought this for my aunt who is facing an unexpected loss. I thought I'd read it before mailing it, and I think it's a very good book in that it supports the grief process and assures one that they are not crazy for their feelings. It also includes practical information that I think is very needed.

    25. Krista

      Incredibly helpful after the sudden death of my fiancé and partner of 8 years. I'd recommend it to anyone who loses a loved one suddenly and/or tragically, but there are also parts that are helpful to anyone who is grieving. A really great book written by two people who've been through sudden, tragic loss.

    26. Loulia

      Good book addressing sudden deaths. Helped me some.Wish it was a bit less centered on family and had a longer chapter on the loss of a friend.It also helped me understand a bit what her parents and brother are going through and how to behave around them.

    27. Ruthanne

      It was good to read that what I'm feeling, doing, saying is "normal" in the wake of the unexpected loss of my mother. The book also reinforced that the grief process is very individual and that there will always be things that will bring tears to my eyes.

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